Updated: Mar 18
Many people are in jobs they don't like. They dread going to work, even if it is sitting in front of a zoom screen. They know that sense of dread isn’t good, healthy, or normal, yet they go through the same routine every day.
To leave or not leave is the question.
It becomes harder to leave if you are the primary breadwinner in your house, if you have a child in daycare or college, or if you can’t imagine a life without the resources you currently have.
It also may seem unfair to walk away from a job in which you are proficient. When you have devoted years building your resume’, why should you walk away from your career at that moment?
Although you can rationalize staying in a job for any number of reasons, you have to think about what is most important to you at this moment. (Your values may have been different 6 months or a year ago.)
Hold that mirror up to your face today, look at yourself, and ask (Yes, really do it!), “What are my values? How does this job align with those values?”
Listen to what your mirror self is telling your flesh and blood self. Listen even if it’s uncomfortable (because it probably will be).
Here’s another way to look at it. If your job is stressing you out and is decreasing the quality of your life and your relationships with your friends and family, and if those relationships are extremely important to you, it may be time to leave. Sure, it may hurt right now, but think about the long-term effects of being in a space that constantly tears you down and does not align with your values.
You may say that is easier said than done. I agree.
Although I’m giving this sage advice to you, I’m not your Sugar Mama! I'm not going to pay your bills. I'm not going to be there when you can't get that car you want to purchase.
Making a major decision such as leaving your job is scary and uncomfortable, and I don’t take that lightly. Neither should you. Everyone isn’t ready to make a major leap at this time. It may not be the season for you. Be okay with that being okay because the point of this exercise is to reduce stress, not create it.
I want you to be able to rest easier, knowing that you are making moves that are establishing you in the positions that you're supposed to be in, positions that will build and lift you up, propelling you to your next level of success.
At the end of your life, I don't want you to look back with regrets. To get to that place, examine your professional life now.
Do what you need to do to ensure that you have a better quality of life, not just a fat bank account.